The Important Thing About Yelling

Healthy Relationships in DC

My older daughter had gotten out a stool and was reaching for something in the pantry when she accidentally dumped an entire bag of rice on the floor. As a million tiny grains pelleted the floor like rain, my child’s eyes welled up with tears. And that’s when I saw it — the fear in her eyes as she braced herself for her mother’s tirade.

She’s scared of me, I thought with the most painful realization imaginable. My 6-year-old child is scared of my reaction to her innocent mistake.

With deep sorrow, I realized that was not the mother I wanted my children to grow up with, nor was it how I wanted to live the rest of my life.

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Are you ready for back to school?

Back To School Savings

With the changing season comes a change in the homes of those of you with children in school. Exciting summer trips and adventures with friends are replaced by the routines of homework, after school events, and troubleshooting the ever-more complex social lives of our kids. For some parents the predictable routine of school being in session again is a welcome relief from what one parent told me was an “endless schlep-athon” from summer camp “A” to summer camp “B.” For others, hitting the books again foretells stormy emotional weather patterns. (One parent shared with me that both of his kids were convinced they had been placed in the classrooms of the rottenest teachers on earth.)

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