Marriage is hard, and sometimes it seems impossible to get through the day-to-day activities of life without arguing; in fact, it’s gotten so bad lately that you’re wondering if you and your spouse would be better off filing for divorce.
Do you want to get divorced in Washington DC?
The decision to file for divorce is life changing, and carries major, irreversible consequences. Marital problems can create a lot of negative feelings and hostility in your relationship, but marital problems don’t have to mean divorce.
So if you’re considering the big D, take the advice of the experienced marriage counselors at Keith Miller Counseling & Associates, and have a frank conversation with your spouse. Talk about your feelings in a calm, rational manner; ask yourselves the following questions, and determine the best course of action for you, your relationship, and your family.
Do you still have feelings for your spouse?
Does it seem like you have fallen out of love with your spouse, or is it more that you’re feeling powerless to correct a problem that has arisen in your marriage? If the latter is true — if there are still feelings of love and affection between the two of you, couples therapy in Washington DC may help improve your relationship, and prevent divorce.
Do you really want to divorce, or are you just angry?
Divorce should never be used as a threat during an argument. If you’re angry at your spouse and threatening divorce out of frustration over the problems in your marriage, but know deep down that you don’t really want to leave, it’s time to pursue couples therapy. An experienced marriage counselor will help you learn more mature, compassionate techniques for conflict resolution.
What is the motivation for divorce?
If you’re hoping that separating and filing for divorce will make your spouse come to realize what they’ve lost, and inspire him/her to make the changes you need them to make, I’m sorry to say you’re wrong. Divorce only promotes conflict; it doesn’t resolve it. If what you’re looking for is a change in the dynamic of your relationship, seek out marriage counseling in Washington DC.
Have you thought about the negative consequences?
A divorce is a loss. When, and if you and your spouse decide to divorce, you’ll be splitting up a family; losing a home; and pushing certain dreams and goals further out of reach. Divorce is far from easy; even when it may be the right decision, you will need a support system in place to help you deal with the stress associated with divorce.
Before you consider divorce:
Consider couples therapy; it could save your marriage.
Learn how to save your marriage and survive couples therapy.