How to Start a Fight (Don’t Try This At Home)


Huge Couple Arguing


I spend my day breaking up fights and I'm pretty good at it by now. There is so much negativity in relationships, in our culture, in our media, and like salt in our food, we can't get away from it.

You don't have to live with negativity in your relationship. It's a sign that something important needs to shift.
I did a recording on how to eliminate criticism in your relationship that can help focus your attention on some simple ways out of negativity.
The other day I laughed when I read one of those viral emails that has been sent around the internet.
Don't try this at home.
Here's what you might get by reading on:
1) You'll read this and share how you stepped in it and started a fight today.
2) We all get to see how we're glad we don't do that. 
3) We feel a little lighter and maybe we can afford to cut back on the sarcasm, the sneak attacks, the grenade launching.
4) We laugh.
5) We get encouraged and realize we can encourage each other in our imperfect marriages.

One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as A
Christmas gift...

The next year, I didn't buy her a gift.

When she asked me why, I replied,

"Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!"

And that's how the fight started....


My wife and I were watching Who Wants To Be A Millionaire while We were
in bed.

I turned to her and said, 'Do you want to have Sex?'

'No,' she answered. I then said,

'Is that your final answer?'

She didn't even look at me this time, simply saying, 'Yes..'

So I said, "Then I'd like to phone a friend."

And that's when the fight started...


I took my wife to a restaurant.

The waiter, for some reason, took my order first.

"I'll have the steak, rare, please."

He said, "Aren't you worried about the mad cow?"

"Nah, she can order for herself."

And that's when the fight started.....


My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school Reunion, and she
kept staring at a drunken man swigging his Drink as he sat alone at a
nearby table.

I asked her, "Do you know him?"

"Yes", she sighed,

"He's my old boyfriend. I understand he took to drinking right after we
split up those many years ago, and I hear he Hasn't been sober since."

"My God!" I said, "Who would think a person could go on celebrating
that long?"

And then the fight started...


When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting To me
that I should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had Something else to
take care of first, the shed, the boat, Making beer.. Always something
more important to me. Finally she thought of a clever way to make her

When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall Grass, busily
snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing Scissors. I watched silently
for a short time and then went into The house. I was gone only a minute,
and when I came out again I handed her a toothbrush. I said, "*When you
finish cutting the grass, you might as well sweep the driveway."

*The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.


My wife sat down next to me as I was flipping channels.

She asked, "What's on TV?"

I said, "Dust."

And then the fight started..


Saturday morning I got up early, quietly dressed, made my Lunch, and
slipped quietly into the garage. I hooked up the boat up to the van and
proceeded to back out into a torrential downpour. The wind was blowing
50mph, so I pulled back into the garage, turned on the radio, and
discovered that the weather would be bad all day.

I went back into the house, quietly undressed, and slipped back into bed.
I cuddled up to my wife's back; now with a different anticipation, and
whispered, "The weather out there is terrible."

My loving wife of 5 years replied, "And, can you believe my stupid
husband is out fishing in that?"

And that's how the fight started...


My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary.

She said, "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in About 3

I bought her a bathroom scale.

And then the fight started......


After retiring, I went to the Social Security office to apply For Social

The woman behind the counter asked me for my driver's License to verify
my age.

I looked in my pockets and realized I had left my wallet at home. I told
the woman that I was very sorry, but I would have To go home and come
back later.

The woman said, 'Unbutton your shirt'.

So I opened my shirt revealing my curly silver hair.She said, 'That silver hair on your chest is proof enough for me and she
processed my Social Security application.When I got home, I excitedly told my wife about my experience at The
Social Security office. She said, 'You should have dropped your pants.
You might have gotten disability too.'

And then the fight started...

My wife was standing nude, looking in the bedroom mirror.

She was not happy with what she saw and said to me,

"I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you to pay me
a compliment.'

I replied, "Your eyesight's darn near perfect."

And then the fight started........