I heard a story of a woman at a wedding reception that blurted out that the bride will make a nice first wife.
Pardon me. A starter wife?
The sexist implications of a disposable wife are too many to list. On the other hand, I'm sure there are a few women that also believe it's their husbands that are the throw-aways.
Think Gloria Steinem, who said, “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”
It seems that the notion of a disposable marriage isn't new. It's on display in the tabloids when you check out at the grocery store. In case you don't take the time to look (what's wrong with you?), I've dug through the heap to find the top ten shortest celebrity marriages.
Top-Ten Shortest Celebrity Marriages
10. Elizabeth Taylor and Conrad "Nicky" Hilton: 205 days (yes, as in The Hilton hotel)
9. Jennifer Lopez and Cris Judd: 218 days
8. Drew Barrymore and Tom Green: 163 days
7. Pamela Anderson and Kid Rock: 122 days
6. Renee Zellwenger and Kenny Chesney: 225 days
5. Nicolas Cage and Lisa Marie Presley: 107 days
4. Mario Lopez and Ali Landry: 18 days
3. Dennis Rodman and Carmen Electra: 9 days
2. Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries: 72 days
1. Britney Spears and Jason Alexander: 55 hours
TLC recently had a reality show called Starter Wives Confidential. According to the show's website, the show "gives viewers a glimpse into the fascinating and complicated lives of celebrity exes." Apparently the show was not that fascinating. It was cancelled a only a few days after it's January, 2013 debut.
Short-lived marriages are not just born in Hollywood
Sascha Rothchild's book, How to Get Divorced by 30: A Misguided Attempt at a Starter Marriage, is a memoir of her immature relationship that split at the seams like a pair of old jeans. Her message is that when you're in your twenties and there's no kids involved, tossing the wedding rings could be the most fantastic thing that ever happened to you.
I know for a fact that some of my readers would agree with her.
Apparently, there are even some municipalities that agree to make it easier for partners to just walk away.
Officials there were grappling with ways to lower the sky-high divorce rate in that particular region. Mexico has one of the lower divorce rates in the world (15%) while the U.S. is the third highest next to Russia and Belarus, with a divorce rate of 53%. The divorce rate in Mexico City at the time of the proposed law (2011) was comparable to the U.S. average.
But who would help all of the struggling divorce lawyers after they were no longer needed?
Message from the U.S. to Mexico City: Don't worry, over time people will get used to the high divorce rate and instead worry about less relevant marital issues, like all of the so-called social ills awaiting society when same-sex partners are recognized by the federal government.
Sarcasm aside, this brings me to my point.
I have recently heard a lot of blustery arguments against same-sex marriage in the wake of the case presently being considered by the Supreme Court. My only wish is that all of that valuable energy spent in opposition to full constitutional rights (to marry), for all people, would instead be spent tackling the cultural attitudes that contribute to throw-away marriages.
Isn't this something we can agree on?